Excuses

Isn't it interesting how an excuse is SO easy to find when we are looking for one? I know this to be true in my life. I've also seen it in the lives of others. Why are we so prone to making excuses? The truth of it is that most of us call them: reasons. In reality, the vast majority of the time...they are excuses, pure and simple. I know, because I do it masterfully. They are not reasons; they are well-thought-out, intricately-designed excuses.

I was thinking about this today, particularly in regards to why we don't do what we know we need to do in our Christian walk. I was SO moved this weekend. I was blessed to be in the same room with over 150 Christian men who came together to eat a meal, fellowship with others, and pray together. I've had many times in my life when I felt that men (most men) were all about women, sports, sex, and testosterone gone-wild. But to listen to the speaker share his story with such emotion and such surrender to God and such devotion to Christ was powerful to me. To see a huge room full of men bow their heads in prayer together after hearing such a real life MANLY story moved me to tears. It was an amazing experience for me. It was for them too. It moved me because God has changed my perception of men--Christian men. My perception was warped by some men that I allowed into my life outside of God's plan for me.

So what does all of this have to do with excuses? I know there were men that needed to be there. I know that there were men that had real reasons why they couldn't be there. And I know that there were men that had excuses. Lame excuses. But excuses that they crafted so well that they couldn't even recognize them as excuses anymore. I know, it's easy for me to say, right? Right, it is easy for me. It is, because I am an expert at doing this too. But the reality of it is I know that there are many Christian men that need other male Christian relationships. I know that not pursuing such relationships can be SO EASY, because all that has to be done is to concoct all kinds of "reasons". But the truth is...all of these hundreds, possibly thousands of men, continue to miss out on something God wants to share in their lives. He wanted more men to be a part of such a moving, bonding, and spiritual experience, but the excuses were rampant. It breaks my heart that men that needed that "stirring" in their lives, hearts, and spirits didn't receive it this weekend because the excuses were just too easy to conjure.

It breaks my heart for them, but it breaks for all of us, myself included, that have missed out on so many, MANY things God wanted to bless us with, that WE decided were not worthy, not needed, not comfortable, etc... Shame on me for doing this MILLIONS of times in my life. I pray that I start TODAY recognizing my reasons for the lame EXCUSES that they really are. I hope that you join me.

Easy Versus Hard

There are a list of words that I do not or try not to use. I am not referring to those words that none of us need to be using. (We all know what that list would include...) I am talking about words that when used either have sparked "disapproval" or "disdain" from others or from within myself.

For example, the word "busy" bothers a friend of mine because his pastor called it an acronym for Being Under Satan's Yolk. Hmmm, busy doesn't sound good. But it is a normal word in my vocabulary, so I just try not to use it if I think about it around my friend. I find myself not using the word "happy" anymore, because my pastor suggested that happiness is based only on happenstance and that joy cannot be changed based on our circumstances. So I pause when I almost choose to say happy or happiness and instead I replace it with the word JOY. Another example is using the words "hard" and "easy". I've been mentally trained to not use those words very often. My dad is the culprit for that one. He's always saying things like "Well, if it was easy, any fool could do it, " or "Nothing worth having is ever easy."

I have had a strange week. I have been fighting a horrible sinus infection. I've been struggling with missing my daughter during the day at work. I have been tired from not getting enough sleep. I have been thrust into an extremely fast-paced job and am still in the "newbie" stage. All of this put together has made for a challenging week. I would even say it has been a hard week. One night this week, by the time I pulled up in the driveway, after fighting DFW traffic, I got out of my car and just burst into tears! Argggh, I hate it when I do that. It wasn't any one particular thing that caused it. I felt horrible, coughing, sneezing, blowing my nose, and a throbbing headache...all day! Missing my daughter. Trying to get my arms wrapped around my new workload. Being so tired I could barely keep my eyes open on the drive home. It just all hit me at once and the tears flowed. I wondered if I had made a mistake. Was this going to be too hard for me?

What had I done, accepting this job and throwing the peaceful and nurturing life Gracyn and I had enjoyed for the last 19months out the window?!?!? Did it ever occur to me that once I kicked the sinus infection, once I got settled into my new position, once I got caught up on my sleep and used to this new schedule, etc...that things would be fine? Nope. I was caught up in my distress. We all do this from time to time in different times in our lives, when challenging situations arise.

I know that God would not have placed the job (a HUGE blessing) in my life, if I could not handle it. I know this, in fact it is not something to "overcome" but an amazing blessing in my life. I love where I work, the people I work with, and the ministry in which I work. And the truth is, I love the challenge of taking on a job that stretches me and makes me learn and grow at every turn. I love a job that is meaningful. I love a job where I am appreciated and treated with the utmost respect. I love a job that challenges me daily. I have all of this. I am truly blessed to be where I am.

You see, God blessed me with the position I have. BUT--Satan wants to steal my joy. Satan wants me to question my blessings. So perhaps he thinks it'd be fun to toss in a nasty sinus infection, a huge helping of sleep-deprivation, oh yeah, how about some paralyzing motherly guilt, oooh and a big smattering of bumper-to-bumper traffic. Stir it all up and see how this girl responds. Whew. He really worked me over. But guess what. I prayed about it. I gave it over to God. I talked with Him about healing, wisdom, strength, gratitude, confidence, and many other things. I knew God would not have placed me in this role, in this ministry so dear to my heart, if it wasn't something I could handle. Let's go beyond handle...perhaps He placed me there to flourish?!?! It is quite possible.

So, anyway, I woke up the next morning well-rested, with the sinuses under control, and with a peace and silent confidence that was more than I prayed for!

This last week was HARD. It was, but if it was easy, any fool could do it, right? I don't want things easy! Perhaps something in between would be good. It's funny though, as tough as it was, it made me even more determined and confident. When we get through difficult times, no matter what they are, we know that God will carry us through. He will. Plus, we gain and grow so much in those storms!!

So was it hard...yes. Was it worth it...YES! The last couple of days at work were tremendous. I felt good. I got a TON accomplished. I am learning and absorbing and enjoying the work we do. Gracyn is having a ball too. It is an adjustment, but it is all from God and thus it will all be a blessing to us and those around us. God works that way. He just does. Romans 8:28 (Check it out.)

Anyone Still Reading?

It's been awhile since my last post, I know. I really have had quite a lot going on. The opportunity to sit down and write hasn't presented itself lately. I miss it. Since I began my new job, I have been WORN OUT! It's a good thing, though. I am really enjoying the job and the great people that I work with. The only down-side is how much I miss all of the time I got used to spending with my little angel. We were both very spoiled to get to spend our days playing together for so long. The awesome thing is that she is in incredible on-site child care while I am at work. I can see her anytime I want, which is SO nice. I am blessed to have the job that I have... SO VERY BLESSED.

So, eventually we will get into a groove and I'll be back to writing more regularly. But for now, it may be pretty sporadic.

Thank you to everyone who was praying for me and contributed to God blessing us with this job opportunity. I am so blessed to have each of you in my life and in my corner. I could never thank you all enough for what you bring to my life. God uses you to bless me, on a very regular basis. Thanks for being His instruments.

The Cost of Freedom

To each and every American veteran this Memorial Day,

Thank You.

GRACE

Grace.

What a mind-boggling concept (for me). Do I fully understand it? Does anyone? Do you? I am not going to drone on and on about what grace means to me (shocking, I know...)

BUT, I would LOVE it, if those of you reading this would post a comment about what grace is/means to you. I know it can be difficult to boil it down to something you can post as a blog "comment". I understand this. But would you each please give it a try? I'd absolutely LOVE to read what it means to you and what it "looks" like in our lives, in your opinion.

The Good, The Bad, The Blessings...

Life is funny. It can be such a wobbly balancing act. At least it always seems that way in my life. It seems that it's never ALL good or ALL bad. There's always a sprinkling of each going on at the same time. I have many things in my life right now that are just plain AWESOME! In contrast, I also have some things that I am struggling with too. But that's life, right? A balancing act between struggle and triumph. Does anyone these days not have A LOT going on? Family, friends, children, finances, homes, jobs, cars, health...etc. Does anyone ever triumph over everything in life? Nope... none of us humans do. And that's OK. In fact, I think it's good. Because it is in the times of struggle that we give God the opportunity to teach us, mold us, change us, and hold us up. It's a completely different need we have for Him than in our times of triumph. Then, He gets to cheer for us, smile for us, celebrate with us, and beam with pride for us. But in each He can bless us, both in our successes and in our struggles. He's always there to give us what we need from Him at just the time we need it, and it can always be a blessing if we are open to it. Whether our circumstances are good or bad, HE IS THERE, and He can and will bless us IF we let Him. I am so thankful for the successes He has blessed me with and I am also thankful for the struggles He's allowed in my life. I am learning, growing, changing, and am abundantly blessed by all of it. Thank you my God, for your wisdom, love, and grace in my life.

Mother's Day Prayer of Thanks

Thank you God for making me a mom. I wasn't expecting it. I wasn't prepared for it. I was scared to death. But You knew best. And You always do. You changed my life. She changed my life. I had no idea how deeply my life could be touched by another human being. Through her, You've given me a clearer and more beautiful portrait of Yourself. It amazes me to think that You look on me the way I look at her. The depth of love You have for me must be so much more than I have for her, and yet I simply cannot conceive of such a depth. I love her so very much. She has brought so many many wonderful things into my life. The greatest one being my new/revised understanding of You...my Father. Thank You for my angel, she is the sunshine in my life. Thank You for knowing best, always. What I was initially terrified of has been one of the biggest blessings of my lifetime! Ahhh, the wisdom and blessings of a loving and gracious Father! Thank You for giving me the gift of Your love, forgiveness, grace, and Gracyn.

Eeeek, I've Been Tagged!

Ok, Delia tagged me. Oh my...

First, the rules:

1. Each player starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.

2. People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.

3. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.

4. Don't forget to leave them a comment telling them they're tagged, and asking them to read your blog.

Ok here we go...eight random things about ME.

1. I am secretly (or not so secretly now) a huge fan of Jack-in-the-Box tacos. Yes, those extremely fattening, greasy, 2 for a $1 tacos. I love them. I know, they are down-right offensive to and opposite of all things healthy, but I really think they've injected them with some sort of highly addictive chemical. I am hooked and have been since I was very young. Thanks a lot mom!

2. I love to do yard work. I love spring, planting flowers, trimming shrubs, pruning trees, getting my hands dirty. Now, I don't mow...I guess I could if I had to, I've just never had to. But the rest of it...AHHHH, I LOVE IT!!!

3. I used to take gymnastics as a small girl under the coaching of Bela Karolyi. Yes, the wildly famous gymnastics coach. At the time I didn't know he was a big deal, in fact he has us call him "carol", since it was easier for us American little girls to say. I quit, not because I didn't love gymnastics...I DO, but because he couldn't pronounce my name correctly and it made me mad. (Oh, the ignorance of our youth...I could kick myself NOW.)

4. I am an animal freak! I love animals. So does my daughter. We have a cat named Bailey and a dog named Bonehead. We love them both! I've had more animals in my life than I can count. I don't see that ever changing!

5. My favorite place on earth (that I have actually been to) is Playa del Carmen, Mexico. People seem to be either mountain people or beach people. While I love both...if I had to pick, I am definitely a beach girl. I love all things tropical. Palm trees, white sand, clear water, colorful fish, etc...

6. I love my family. My daughter is the LIGHT of my life. She makes my world a joyful, fun, playful, precious place to be. My mom is tender-hearted and kind. If you're hurting, she is hurting too. My sister is one of my very best friends. She is almost the exact opposite of me, as far as personalities, but we "get" each other. She's always there if I need a friend. My dad is my rock. My best friend. My measure of a good, Godly, Christian man. I'd be lost without him.

7. My mom and dad named me Carlotta because my dad worked at the bank with this lady named Carlotta.My parents both just really liked her name a lot and thought it was very unique. I never met this woman until I was in my mid-twenties because she ended up being my aerobics instructor at my gym. Weird!

8. I am THE MOST BLESSED woman I know. My life is not perfect, I don't have a lot of things. But when it comes to the things that matter, truly matter, I have them all, IN SPADES. God has blessed me in so many many ways, and I am humbled and eternally thankful for all that He is and all that He has done in my life and in the lives of those around me. I am a friend of God. What an amazing thing!

Ok, I am tagging:

Amy C.

Kimberly

Erin

CeCe

Anyone else who wants to play...I don't know eight people who will play along...you know who you are...party poopers!

ME!

I have been reading a book today. It is by T.D. Jakes. I am really enjoying it.

He has "reminded" me of a few things that I already knew, but lose sight of from time to time.

One of those things is the fact that I am exactly who God created me to be--right down the the tiniest detail of my body, the tiniest details of my psyche, the tiniest details of my heart, mind, soul, etc... I am one of a kind. An original. The only being ever created to these exact specifications. God planned my very existence. He knew when the exact perfect time for me to exist would be, where my life should be lived, to what family I should be born, to what conditions, what skills, strengths, weaknesses...EVERYTHING. I am ME. Here at this time, in this place, in these circumstances, with this family, these friends, this church, this appearance, this mind, soul, and heart for a very specific reason within a very specific plan. HIS PLAN.

Another thing T.D. reminded me is that because I am designed, to the tiniest detail by the God of the universe and that I should not ever change the things that make me...ME! No one can be me like I can. I am the expert. I am hardwired to be Carlotta. If I were to try to be someone else, to look like someone else, to think like someone else, to behave like someone else....I would be insulting my God. He made me the way I am for a reason, with a plan! He gave me my intricacies for a reason...ALL OF THEM. He made me LOVE animals. He made me tender-hearted. He made me silly. He made me competitive. He made me short. He made me even-tempered. He made me sensitive. He made me caring. He made me compassionate. He made me easy-going and flexible. He made me fair-skinned. He made me a daddy's girl. He made me a mom. He made my sense of humor. He made me SO many different things. To change them to be like someone else, or to be liked by someone else would be a travesty. I will not change ME, the ME God created me to be for anyone! I will not.

I have many times forgotten these things at different times in my life. I am ME, designed and purposed by GOD Himself...that alone makes me wonderful, special, unique, and GOOD. I am the WAY He made me too, and those things are wonderful, special, unique, and GOOD. I will not change ME for anyone. God wanted me this way for HIS reasons. And..."poo" on anyone else who doesn't like it!

All of these things are true for each and every person who has walked, is walking, or will walk on this earth. Be YOU. Be proud. Don't ever compare yourself to other people. Don't ever try to change to be like other people. Don't not ever change yourself to attract other people. Be YOU. And God will work His plan in your life. His wonderful, beautiful, and perfect plan for your life. Don't mess with His perfection! Be YOU, God's YOU. I am ME...the best and only ME there will ever be! And I love it...and embrace it. I can and will improve ME to be a better ME in light of God's Word, but I will not change my Carlotta-ish details that God blessed me with--on purpose--for anyone or any reason. I know they exist for a higher-purpose! Yours do too.

Delight

"The Lord your God is with you, He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing." Zephaniah 3:17

"The world is so full of care and sorrow that it is a gracious debt we owe to one another to discover the bright crystals of delight hidden in somber circumstances and irksome tasks." Helen Keller

"I delight greatly in the Lord; my soul rejoices in my God. For He has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteousness." Isaiah 61:10

"Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition." Alexander Smith

"To overcome difficulties is to experience the full delight of existence." Arthur Schopenhauer

"Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires." Psalm 37:4

It's Not Easy Seeing Green

I used to suffer with an affliction. I still do but on a smaller scale than before. This affliction is: never being content or satisfied with what we have. There's a game that we play with ourselves. We see something we want. A "high" develops. We begin processing a plan of how to get it. It becomes exciting. We carry out our plan. Many times we succeed. We have the thrill of success. We admire our new "thing". Then VERY quickly the high fades. We question our "item". Maybe we should have waited. Maybe we should have looked around more. Maybe we should have got the other one. The other one looks so much better to me now. The thrill we felt at the beginning is a LIE. It is a deception. It is a work of the enemy. How thrilling it must be for him to see us in a constant state of discontent and on the unhealthy ride of highs and lows that put the world's most insane roller coasters to shame. Satan has to love that. We always want what we don't have and are never satisfied with what we do have. What ingrates we are!

With the exception of my current vehicle, I have always had a HUGE high when it comes to buying a car. I see one, I research it, I compare it, I test drive it, I do all the things one can do, and then I decide to buy it. The first day is AWESOME. This is MINE. I love it. I breathe in the new car scent deeply into my lungs. Wow, isn't this awesome? I drive it around. I enjoy it's every feature. I drink in the toy that is MY NEW CAR!!! Then, that night, lying in bed I begin the process of discontentment. I begin to think, "I really wanted red.... Really I wanted an SUV not a sedan. I don't like this feature or that one. Or I think, mine doesn't have all the features that this car or that car has. I picked the wrong car. I don't want my car, I want that other one. What a FOOL I am!!!!"

It happens with cars, homes, clothes, shoes, etc. It is even more dangerous when we do this with the "deeper" things in our lives. Like people and churches, etc... I'll be honest, I've done it. Many of us have. I used to know this man, who SO wanted to fall in love. At least, he thought he did. He tore up the dating scene trying to find THE ONE. He'd meet a lady, enjoy her company, her looks, her personality etc.., he'd think she was IT, and then wake up the next day, with the high gone and a real live person "hooked", but he was no longer "hooked". He left a trail of broken and hurt women in his path because he wanted what he couldn't have and never what he did have. As soon as it became "his" in any way, as soon as the "chase" was over, he'd begin to despise what he had. It was all about the chase. He didn't want a woman in his life...he wanted the HIGH of chasing them. He was like an addict searching for the next high, it was all he could think about, it overcame his mind. He would never sit back and be satisfied and full. He succumbed daily to Satan's lies: "Wait, that's not the BEST of the BEST, you settled, you are a fool, man. There is one hotter, one younger, one that is PERFECT, toss this one aside and start the chase again, my friend." This man has fallen for those lies for decades. Sadly, my bet is that this man will never be content and will live a lonely life and die alone, because he continues to listen to the enemy and jumps up to dance with him every chance he gets. It makes me sad and a bit nauseous at the same time. What is wrong with us?

Aren't we all like that, especially in this country? We are so spoiled, so selfish, and so discontented with what God places in our lives. We receive blessings, then pick them apart, and decide that they are not quite up to our standard. Even though we may have prayed for them and God blessed us with them they become "not good enough". I've done that. The enemy must fall over laughing every time that I do that. He must love that I taint my blessings that way and that I become unthankful and displeased and even begin to despise what my God gave to me. It's sickening! I've done it with cars, houses, jobs, relationships, churches. From the most insignificant gift to the the grandest. I've mocked them all. I've been like the selfish little brat at Christmas that wonders "is that all?" or says, "but I didn't get this...or that..." How ungrateful is that?!?

How disgustingly ungrateful we must all look to our Father. How sad we must make Him. We pray. He blesses. We throw it back at Him and say THAT isn't good enough for me...try again buddy! How His heart must hurt and break in our selfishness, discontented state. Do we continue to do the church hop, the small group hop, the relationship hop, the job hop, etc...? Do we keep sitting back in selfishness and pick apart the blessings God has placed before us or do we STOP?!?!? Do we put our foot down and say, "God, I AM SO SORRY! PLEASE FORGIVE ME. You placed such precious and wonderful things at my table and I am thankful for them ALL. I wish to honor You by cherishing all that is in my life: my home, my job, my family, my children, my spouse, my friend, my church, my small group, my car, my clothes, my body, my LIFE." How much sweeter would life be if we just said "thank you" to Him and put in the work it takes to enjoy the things He has placed at our table? I say WORK because it is work, when we constantly have to fight off the devil lying to us saying we deserve better and/or more. If we all got what we deserve, we'd all be dead and tormented in the fires of hell. Get off of your self-made pedestal and begin being gracious and thankful for all that is in your life, instead of disappointed about all that is not. God has made your cup overflow and you should be thankful and satisfied with His provisions.

Let's stop playing the role of Eve and listening to lies. You know what that got her?!?!? Learn a lesson from someone else FOR ONCE. Let's not follow her lead. Let's be thankful that we have what we have, and that we are blessed with so much MORE than greedy and selfish people like us will ever deserve. The next time you look at something in your life and think that it's not good enough...recall that no matter what that thing is, it is FAR better than what you deserve! You deserve hell's fury and fire. Cry out to God with a thankful and joyful heart that He has made your cup over flow! Contentment is not a feeling! It isn't. It is like love. It is a CHOICE. It is a decision. It is a beautiful realization that you have what God GAVE to you and it is MORE than enough. Fall to your knees and pour out your heart in thanks and love and gratitude. Do the work. Make that choice. Decide to be content. Our grass is BLINDINGLY green, let's ask God to help us see it and to be thankful for it! It is so much more than you or I will ever deserve.

Do You Do It?

I have a friend who encouraged me to start journaling again. I used to journal a lot. I got out of the habit when Gracyn was born. She was my excuse, I suppose. I have recently started journaling again, I wish I had never stopped. It is therapeutic for me, in many ways. I learn so much about myself and my motives as I go through life and circumstances. I am able to release my struggles, my failures, and my successes in an external format. While, I do blog, I don't share everything in my blogs. I use general topics and circumstances so that other readers can possibly relate too.

I just finished doing some journaling just now, and it's amazing how much I have grown over the past few years. See, when I journal I also go back sometimes to see where my mind was in the past and what my focus was on and the progress I have made (or not, as the case may be). Over the past couple of years and especially months I have grown immensely. I've started the process of getting the focus off of ME. Of course having a child will teach you that really quickly. But I am learning to not just focus on her either. Reading past journal entries and reviewing where my life's focus has been, has trained me to be COGNISANT and AWARE of my focus and my motives in my life. That's a cool thing about journaling, if you choose to review them or recall past times in your life you can get a quick picture of what is/was taking up the biggest portion of your life, mind-space, and heart-space (thanks Erin).

I am getting better about taking the focus off of me. I am not great at it, but I am getting better. I have come A LONG WAY with giving my God the biggest portion of my heart and mind space. I SO long to please Him, to do His will in my life, to take His hand and let Him lead me...even places I am scared and unsure to go. One step at a time, I am learning to let go. It's scary and exhilarating all at once. I don't know where He'll lead me and that's scary. What if He leads me to some place or to someone that I wouldn't have chosen? Unsettling sometimes. But WHY??? Doesn't He know what I need most? Doesn't He have my best interest at heart? Didn't He create every part of me and give me my very breath? Why wouldn't I just take His hand and follow Him anywhere feeling 100% comfortable, safe, and secure? Well, I am learning everyday to do this. I am learning to look at life with new vision. I am learning to take off my shallow glasses, my earthly desires, and be open to situations that I am unsure of. My view is fallible, His is not. He brings circumstances and people into my life. They may be beautiful blessings and bring overly abundant joy into my life IF I choose to trust Him. It's not always so easy. I am just like everyone else. I have the capacity to be selfish, to be shallow, to think my preferred scenarios are what is best. I have to make concerted effort to let go of my perfect pictures and scenarios and trust I am where I am for a reason. I am here at this place, in the circumstances, with these people for a reason. I can either trust Him or buck Him. If I am living my life according to His word, (and I am trying my best everyday...) He will bless my life in ways I cannot yet imagine. But I must trust. And I am doing that better today than I EVER have in my life. And that brings incredible peace. I could worry about how I am going to provide for me and my child, or I can trust Him to guide me there. I can worry about having or not having a Godly relationship with a Christian man, or I can trust Him to guide our paths. I can worry about raising my child to follow the footsteps of Christ or I can trust God to provide me with the tools and heart to do so. I can worry about finding the right ministry to pursue or I can trust God to lead me where He needs me most. The results of trusting Him will bring true joy, true life, true peace. Worry will never bring any such things. He wants me to have life and have it to the FULLEST. That means--His way not mine. That takes immense trust.

These things are easier for me to SEE and PROCESS when I journal. I can see in black and white what I am struggling with. I can go back and review it. Journaling is thoughts, feelings, fears, failings and successes all captured in time on paper. With these writings I can review and adapt. I can get a better, more open, and honest picture of where I was and where I've come, that may get skewed if the only place it is stored is in my mind. If I recall a time in my life, mentally, I may skew it to be something different, than if I have black and white evidence to read. I can see, quite clearly, if I am trusting or worrying. If I am open to Him or only open to me. Journaling is an incredible tool that I encourage you to use as well. In it, you can draw nearer to God and you can see yourself in a true light, which in my life means GROWTH.

To my friend, who reintroduced me to journaling, I thank you with all of my heart. It makes a huge difference in my life and you do too.

He Can Move the Mountains

How big is God? Isn't it interesting how small we make Him? How incapable? Doesn't sound too good huh? But the truth of it is, we all limit God. We bind Him up by clinging to our sinful nature and our pasts. We doubt Him. We say that we give Him control over the things in our lives that we struggle with but then we rip it right back out of His hands. We want Him to make our future better than our pasts, but we don't really believe He will. Our disbelief in such things manifests itself in our words, actions, and thoughts.

For example: Let me tell you about someone who struggles with shrinking God and making Him smaller than her HUGE problems. (And no, for those of you who always wonder, and sometimes ask, it's not me and it's not you that I am writing about.) I'll call her Shannon. Shannon has a long string of broken relationships in her past. She has shacked-up with several men over the years. She's made commitments that she didn't honor. She's lied, cheated, manipulated, and hurt men she said she loved. She also allowed the same to be done to her repeatedly. She's never had a healthy relationship of any kind in her whole life, not even with her family. She wants one. She longs for love, acceptance, companionship, partnership, romance, honesty...she wants the real deal. She's prayed for it. She's changed her ways. She's tried the relationship-thing again a few times, but for one reason or another they've all bombed.

What do you think she's thinking today? Well, in this case she has decided that while God "might" bless her with a good relationship with a man, she knows that there will be significant issues and significant "lacking" areas because she's still a sinner (aren't we all), and because of her dysfunctional past and loathsome past behaviors. She says she's a new creation in Christ, but yet, because she is still not perfect in all that she does, she submits in defeat and gives up on having successful and beautiful relationship with a Godly man. How silly. She says her God is the God of the universe, with NOTHING He cannot do, NOTHING too "messed up" for Him to bless...but without actually saying it in these exact words she doesn't believe He will do that for HER. She puts limitations on what her future relationship will be. She fears that their sex life will be a struggle because of a rape, plus her mangled sexual past, and because of current internal struggles. She says that she is afraid that she'll fall into old routines, past behaviors, because you see, she is still a sinner. (Yeah, well, Shannon, who isn't?) Her concerns and fears go on and on. What's that about? Faith is faith. Belief in things yet unseen! For her, a Godly and blessed earthly relationship has yet to be seen. A prince has not rode up to her front door on his white stallion and whisked her away to his castle. It's as if, if it appears in her life in any other format, she's not going to believe it. It's like it has to be a fairy-tale for her to believe it is from God. That is the only way she sees God will handle all of those fears and issues. God being able to "handle" those issues she mentions is just not real for her, it is fairy-tale. She says she believes in a God who can handle everything...that He can move mountains...but what she's really saying is He can move mountains...just not hers.

That breaks my heart. Oh ye of little faith. I just want to say to people sometimes..."Stop saying you believe this or that if you don't really believe it!" HE IS GOD. HE CAN BLESS ANYTHING...EVEN SHANNON and her future relationship. He can turn a train wreck into a miraculous blessing. He can and will...ONLY if we give it over to Him and leave it with Him. Ripping it back out of His hands is not an option. We have to give it over to Him and let it go and allow Him to change us, our lives, our tendencies, and our future. Our junk and funk is not stronger or bigger than Him. Our mountains are not too heavy for Him to move. But He will not move them until we've given them to Him FULLY.

In what way are you limiting the God of the universe? In what ways do your words of faith not match up with what you really believe in the depths of your heart? Is it recovery from an addiction(s)? Is it healing a broken marriage? Is it financial? Is it an estranged friendship or family relationship? Don't you know--He CAN move mountains... even yours...WHATEVER they may be!! All you have to have is faith. Even faith as small as a mustard seed (and that is teeny tiny). Step away from the mountain, don't not let yourself keep reclaiming it...stand back IN FAITH and watch Him move it miles and miles away from you! He can...and will, but only if you let Him.

Hoping to get Zapped?

My friend Erin wrote in her blog about something that I think most people can relate to...I certainly could. The words she used rang true for several of us who read her blog. She was discussing the frustration with having feelings within the heart that aren't going anywhere, that drag us down, that are not providing any good within our lives. She so eloquently said that they are a waste of heart-space. It is like she had been snooping through my heart over the years. She knew the pain and struggle of having wasted heart-space, and the understandable agony of not knowing how to remedy the problem.

Boy, if I had the answer to that I'd be one of the most sought after human-beings in the world. That kind of struggle reminds me of a scene in a movie--Bruce Almighty. There is a scene in the movie where Jennifer Aniston is curled up in bed, crying, pain-filled tears streaming down her face, while she is praying, telling God she does not want to love this man anymore, asking--no, begging God to make her not love him anymore. OH...when I saw that movie for the first time---I could SO relate. I was there. I was that woman. I had spent countless hours in prayer, tears falling endlessly, begging God to remove my feelings. Banish them! They were hurtful and future-less feelings. Argggh. But He didn't ZAP those feelings from my heart. I struggled with those feelings for years.

Good news is...I am free from those feelings. Why? Well, for me, it took time, it took refocus, it took an intentional mental clean-up. It took prayer. It took self-control. It took looking at the reality of blatant futility. It took thinking more of others than myself. It took putting my focus on God other than on myself. It took moving God into the position of highest power and influence in my life and taking it away from a man who never wanted that power in my life, and certainly never deserved it. There comes a point when we have to resurface into the world of what IS and what CAN BE and stop living in the past or living in futility. God wants more, SO MUCH MORE, for our lives. He just wants us to LIFT UP OUR EYES and see beyond our so very limited "feelings" and see this whole new beautiful and unfathomable plan HE has for us. We've got to stop trying to live in the past, trying to live in an imaginary world that is never to be, and cheating ourselves out of the will of our God whose plan for us turns our "feelings" and our "plans" into dust in comparison to the splendor of what HE HAS PLANNED FOR US.

We have been blinded by the enemy. He wants to to be so focused on this or that, that we never lift up our eyes to see what God has waiting right there in front of us. Satan would love for each of us to get lost in our feelings and to waste up all of our precious "heart-space". It's so easy to listen to his lies, his whispers, his slyly comforting betrayal that we know better than God, that we know what is best for us, and what we most need. I warn you, that road leads to more pain, more anguish, more agony, and final defeat. I've been there! I've been there not so long ago. It takes work...hard work to claw your way out of the virtual grave you've buried yourself in. It does not happen overnight. It only happens with God at the lead, with you following HUMBLY behind, and with an army of friends and family in support of your entrance to the world of GOD'S blessings and GOD'S plan for you.

So I guess I do have the answer, but I doubt anyone will line up to get it from me. The answer isn't a ZAP from God, as much as we would all like for it to be. But there is an answer. There is hope. There is something so much better than we ever dreamed. It may end up nothing like what you would have had planned...but you better thank God for that!! What you had planned quite possibly could have been planted in your life by someone who comes to steal, kill, and destroy! Get out of your little box and your clean out your heart-space. Fill it up with Him and He will give you the desires of your heart. He said so Himself!

Taming the Tongue

For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Matthew 12:34

That is really something we should all stop to ponder. We all say things that we shouldn't. We all let things come out of our lips that should have never even entered our minds. But the truth is, our words reveal SO much about the content of our hearts. If our mouths are spewing venom...our hearts are quite likely full of poison as well. Join me in begging our heavenly Father to clean our hearts so that all that comes forth from us, whether in word or in deed, brings glory to Him. Join me in begging forgiveness from Him and from others who have been the victims of our untamed tongues. Our words can cut to the bone, they can slash into the hearts of our brothers and sisters, and they can do damage we cannot even begin to fathom. Let's be ever mindful of what we think and say, whether in public or in secret, as they reveal our hearts.

For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned. Matthew 12:37

Lyrics of a Short Song I Adore

Create in me a clean heart oh God

Let me be like you in all my ways

Give me your strength, teach me your song

Shelter me in the shadow of your wings

For we are your righteousness

If we die to ourselves and live through your death

Then we shall be born again to be blessed in your love!

-Terry Talbot-

What's In Your Heart?

What are you holding in your heart today? What are the things you choose to fill it with? (Key word: CHOOSE)

It is the day after Easter. The day after we celebrate the resurrection of the One who gave EVERYTHING for us. The One who overpowered death's grip. What a glorious day; a day without which we would have NO hope! Easter fills my heart with JOY, LOVE, HOPE, EXCITEMENT!

In stark contrast to that, my heart has also been filled with many others things. Things that are not nearly as rosy. Sadness. Frustration. Confusion. Disappointment. Even Anger. How could such things reside in the same place that JOY, HOPE, and LOVE do? I'll tell you why...for one thing, I am human...very human. Another reason is that the enemy and his minions never rest and never let up. Another reason...I CHOSE to place those things in my heart.

BUT...and that is a BIG OL' BUT...the great thing is...I AM INTROSPECTIVE. I am constantly evaluating what is in my heart and in my mind, on an ongoing basis. This is something that I have not always done, but have learned to do over the past couple of years. Giving yourself a completely honest, no holds barred look into your heart and soul, many times a day can be LIFE CHANGING. I look to see what is inside. Then I ask "WHY is that there, did I put it there, did I allow my enemy to place it there, or is it of God?" Then I ask myself , "Is it beneficial to my walk in Christ or is it counterproductive?" This process takes complete and utter honesty. Not always fun, but always worth it! Most of the time, it's really easy to find when I am harboring resentment, self-loathing, anger, envy, etc...AND to find its source. Once you recognize the "demons" in your head, it's much easier to deal with them and flush them out. But if you never take the time, the effort, and choose to endure the discomfort of doing this, you'll just deteriorate your heart and mind with the corrosion that comes from the enemy. And those things (your heart and your mind) my friend, belong to HIM, not you.

Take inventory daily. Flush out the negativity. Flush out the feelings (whoa whoa whoa feeeeelings...Ed Young reference, I couldn't resist) that are there because of the enemy's attempt to win your heart over tiny piece by tiny piece. Anger, hate, jealousy, envy, self-hatred, and the like are not of God. We all face them. We all are bombarded by such things. But man...we have got to be on the proactive side of this thing or Satan will get a foothold, and let me tell you he has a wicked grip, once you allow him to take hold.

Jesus did not come to this earth, to die a tortuous and excruciating death, defeat it, and rise up again, so that you would fill your heart...(which belongs to Him), with such blackened, rotting, pungent, sludge. He came to bring HOPE, LOVE, JOY, and LIFE!!!

Take a look, you are human, there will be some very undesirable things trying to take up residence in your heart. Don't look away. Don't "deal with it later". Don't play the avoidance game. Don't wallow in your unhappiness. Dig down deep and clean it out. Give Him the junk and funk. He'd LOVE to take it away from you. Let Him fill the remaining space with His gifts. JOY, LOVE, HOPE, GRACE, and LIFE!!! It's YOUR choice. What is in there, is there because it is what YOU choose.

Just As He Said...

"He is not here; he has risen, just as he said. Come and see the place where he lay. Then go quickly and tell his disciples: 'He has risen from the dead and is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him.' Now I have told you." Matthew 28:6-7

"He has risen! He is not here. See the place where they laid him. But go, tell his disciples and Peter, 'He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.'" Mark 16:6-7

Sharing The Light

This is difficult to discuss for some reason. It is easier to leave things unsaid. Covered up. Unexposed. But I am going to make myself open up and be vulnerable with you all....The truth of it is, I really have a hard time sharing my faith. Not to my family, not to my friends, but to the rest of the world. Sheepishly, I try to counter that by telling myself that being kind, trying to reflect Christ in my daily life is a way of sharing my faith, but is it really? Have I ever intentionally shared my faith with a stranger? No. Have I ever been purposeful in spreading the good news to the world? Not really. It is not that I hide it, but I don't make a concerted effort to share it either. Why??? I don't know exactly. What is my fear? I am afraid that I won't have all the answers and that will turn someone away. I am afraid that I will fumble my words. I am afraid that I won't have the impact that I believe the good news of Jesus Christ so richly deserves. I am afraid that there will be holes in my delivery. I am afraid someone will think I am weird, a Bible thumper, a radical. So many fears. I hate that. I have THE answer. I have THE key. I have what this dying world needs to truly LIVE. I have it and I am afraid to share it. HOW PITIFUL. I know that all will not hear it. I know that all will not accept it. I know that I may be persecuted. I know all of this, but I have the God of the Universe behind me, in my corner, ready, willing, and able to give me strength. But I focus in on my fears, my weaknesses, and my image. How selfish. How faithless. How NORMAL!

I could revel in my normalcy. I know MOST Christians struggle with the same things. Ahhh, the comfort of being among so many who understand. Oh, the sweet release of pressure of knowing that I am not alone. But what a travesty!!!! I do not want to be among the many. I do not want to be the standard, normal, complacent Christian. I want to be on fire. I want to be fearless. I want to give the world THE cure emphatically. I want to shout it from the mountain tops. I want to know that I have God working within me. I want to use His Holy Spirit to guide my words, to give me boldness, to fill me with strength that I never dreamed possible. I want to ooze the good news. I want anyone and everyone that meets me to be insistent to know what it is that I have, that they so desperately need. I want to never second guess myself to share it with them. I want to be a LIGHT, a beacon to the lost, a port for those drowning in the storms of this fallen world...and I am not.

I guess I wanted to share this with you all, to get it out there, to get it exposed. I pray that I intentionally change this. I pray that I enlist the God of the Universe to help me be bold, daily. I want to reach outside of my comfort zone when it comes to sharing my faith. I want to surround myself with those people who already do. I want to learn from them, to follow their lead and their example. I want to be bold. I have the CURE and I am more often than not, keeping it to myself. I don't want to do that a second longer. Pray for me. Pray for courage. Pray for change in my life. Pray for fearlessness because: If God be for me who can be against me!!!

Thanks for letting me expose my weakness and my fear.

Wait.

Have you ever heard God say, "Wait."? I bet you have. I have too. Have you ever been OK with waiting? Really? Truth-serum-honestly OK with it? Well, patience has never been my strong-suit. I am getting better about it as I get older...better, but not good. It's tough to wait.

Are you waiting right now? Why do you think that is His response? Have you thought about it? Have you tried reasoning it out? Perhaps He is simply wanting to see your response. Perhaps it isn't that what you want isn't ready or isn't right. Perhaps it's not that you aren't ready. Perhaps He wants to see your faith and patience illustrated.

There is something in my life I have been praying about for quite a while. I have been reaching roadblocks and speed bumps and potholes for some time. All of a sudden...there was nothing. No movement. No YES and no NO. Silence. Inactivity. God said "Wait." What do I do with that? If understood why I was waiting, wouldn't that be easier? But I didn't understand. I didn't understand the ceasing of all progress AND all hindrance. Perhaps THAT was the test. What will she do if nothing happens? How will she respond if everything regarding this prayer ceases? Will her faith be illustrated or will her lack of faith?

Well, I went to bed a few nights ago incredibly discouraged. I was tired, grumpy, frustrated, and disappointed about the whole thing. I was on the verge of giving up. Even on the verge of making counter-effective decisions. Rash decisions. Flight decisions (fight or flight). But I didn't. Instead, I fell asleep praying. I asked God to clear my head, to straighten my thinking, to help me understand and/or accept the silence of the situation, to help me remain steadfast instead of caving into defeat. I needed Him to intervene in my head, because my head was betraying my heart. My heart belongs to Him. My heart needed His strength to stand up against my head and its sometimes silly logic.

And guess what, I woke up the next morning renewed! The silence became irrelevant. I had peace. I felt serene again. I knew that I wasn't getting a NO, just a WAIT. I knew my prayer was in line with His will. I knew it would be wrong to do anything other than wait on Him no matter the reason. And only one day later my prayer was answered with a resounding YES! Perhaps in the silence that nearly made me panic...perhaps in those telling moments He was watching to see how deeply I trusted in Him and how dedicated I was to what I was praying about. The moment I stopped wrestling with it and gave it up to Him, He turned WAIT into YES.

I grinned ear to ear, laughing and shaking my head at myself for having had such a struggle in the first place. I know better. Always trust in Him...even in the dead silence.

Thank You God for the YES...AND for the WAIT. I understand what it was about...now. I'll remember next time around. Wink.

Optional?

"Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation. Whoever believes AND is baptized will be saved, whoever does not believe will be condemned." Mark 1:16

Does this mean that those who are not baptized will not be condemned because it only states that those who do not believe will be condemned? Hmmm. Doubtful. My guess is, if you don't believe, you probably aren't going to be getting baptized in the first place..DUH. And if for some bizarre reason you do get baptized and yet don't believe, you'd still be condemned, right? Hmmm. So to be saved one must believe AND be baptized. Interesting.

"ALL authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to believe everything I have commanded you." Matt 28:18-20

Does that sound optional either? Anyone have any thoughts on this?

Most of you guys know how strongly I feel about this, I just am curious how any of that can be swept under the rug. I know it happens and I don't get it.

What do you guys think?

(I chose to only include scripture which came out of the mouth of Jesus, for time's sake...but there are MANY others in the Bible that support this stance. NOTE: the bold, caps, and italicizing emphasis are mine.)

Beauty...it's everywhere!

This picture was sent to me in an email today. Isn't it breathtaking? Sometimes, I see things like this or receive things via email or whatever and it snaps me out of the place where I was. I got this email as I was just taking a QUICK couple of minutes between laundry and getting lunch ready for the munchkin. I was in a "get it done" mode. Shuffling about, doing this, doing that...but missing out on the beauty of life. Not just the breathtaking beauty like this picture, but the beauty that goes on in my home and in my life every single day. It makes me sad how much of it that I must miss in my hurried state sometimes. But I know that it is God's gentle Spirit that thumps me on the head from time to time with things like this. He wants me to stop, slow down, and see what He puts in my life and into my world just because He loves me. His creation is an amazingly beautiful thing. His love for us is illustrated in so many ways. SLOW DOWN. Raise your head up from what your doing. See the beauty in this world. See the beauty in your home. See the beauty in the faces and souls of your family and friends. His love and promises surround you everyday. Don't miss them and fail to acknowledge them and thank Him for them. He is so good to us. Wake up from your slumber, raise your head up and see what He's done!

Legalists...Modern-Day Pharisees

Oh boy. I have had two things in my life bring me to this post. One source is my "homework" from my Growing Kids God's Way class that I am currently involved in AND a blog post by a cyber-friend of mine.

The issue is LEGALISM in Christianity! UGGGH. What an ugly topic. So many people use God's divine word to bind people up, to punish, to condemn, and to dole out hopelessness. I hate that. Have these people really read God's word or are they simply taking scripture out of context and/or removing God's heart from it?

The number one reason people do this, in my opinion, is to Bible thump others. This was the favorite past-time of the Pharisees. (Not a group of people I'd like to resemble!) You may want to take some time to research how Jesus responded to the Pharisees when they were trying to condemn someone for breaking a law/commandment. It is not pretty, actually. And in contrast, watch how Jesus dealt with such issues. STARK CONTRAST!

The second reason I believe people do this is because they do not know the heart of God. It always amazes me that the people who seem to be able to spout out scripture after scripture, in order to spiritually "beat up" someone else, don't have an inkling about the heart of the Father. I believe that the main reason that these people are even in the Word most of the time is to find more ammunition to bind others up, to "straighten them out", and (unintentionally) veil God's love for them.

The third reason I believe that people do this is because they don't understand that the condition of our heart is KEY to God--NOT how many rules, laws, commandments, and regulations we perfectly keep. That will not win anyone a spot in heaven. It won't. How can anyone read scripture and yet be so blind to what is really in there?!?! God KNEW we couldn't be perfect, He knew we'd fall short (every time)...He knew. He knew we could never do it on our own. He knew we needed a savior. THAT'S the heart of the Father. He's not the "Big Score Keeper in the Sky!"It amazes me that anyone could spend any time in His Word and not see His deeply loving heart for us.

TAKE NOTE: I do not subscribe to a God that I can create/manipulate to allow me to do the things I want to do either! Do not misinterpret me. God cannot be bended and manipulated for your own sinful desires. To try to do so is insulting to Him. Do not say to yourself, "I can do this thing or that thing that I know is wrong...and I know God, I know He loves me deeply and will forgive me anyway." Don't try to manipulate Him and insult Him that way. DANGEROUS!!! He knows your heart and your intent! He cannot be fooled. He can see through it all. He knows your heart intimately.

Get in the Word. See His heart. Understand His deep, deep love for you. Understand what His focus truly is: The Condition of Our Hearts. We cannot be perfect. We cannot go through life never messing up, never sinning, always doing the right and perfect things. We cannot. We strive for excellence in His sight, but we KNOW that the HEART---OUR HEARTS are what He sees and what He knows. Our hearts will reflect in our actions. Don't let modern-day legalistic pharisees spiritually beat you up! Trust in your Father, know He sent His Son to bridge the gap between you and God. KNOW THAT WAS ENOUGH! If you need a change of heart...do it today! If you know your heart is right with God, breathe a sigh of peace. God knows your heart.

Being Used

Reach up. Reach out. Reach in. That is something that my church uses to illustrate what we do within the local church. Each one is pretty self-explanatory. It is the reaching out to others that I want to drastically improve. I want to be more purposeful with my story. I want to do what it takes to reach others and be used by God. It is not enough to want to, to desire to. As I have said over and over, we must move ourselves to action.

I had lunch with a dear friend the other day. As I talked to him about this, he asked me something I wasn't expecting--had I shared this with my Home Team? I sheepishly said, "Well, not really. One or two of them know. " At that moment I knew I had to share this with everyone that is in my Christian circle of influence. I need to share this with all of you and with my small group (Home Team) from church. The reasons I need to do this are many: I need prayer. I need encouragement. I need to be held accountable. I need to be built up when I run into Satan's roadblocks and speed bumps. I am so thankful to my friend for reminding me of the valuable resource that I hadn't truly tapped into.

Here it is: I want to become VERY involved in my church. I eventually want to be a speaker. I want to lead groups. I want to share my story. I want God to use me to reach people who may not otherwise be reached, if I were to only think about it, instead of actively pursuing leadership roles. I want to be God's instrument. I want to keep searching, keep contacting people until someone sees God's fire within me and can help plug me in fittingly. I would love to do this, to begin a ministry within the church that I so dearly love. I believe in what they are doing for the lost in our community. I yearn to be an active and integral part of that. I do not want to look up years from now and realize I had a fire that Satan turned into smoldering dust. The thought of not living God's will for me breaks my heart!

I ask each of you to pray for me, to encourage me, to not let up on me, to help me as your Christian sister to step up to the challenge God has placed before me. It is as scary as it is exciting. I have a colorful past, a redemption story, and a new life that begs to be used to reach others as an illustration of what Christ can do within willing hearts. No matter who or where they are...I want to be used to reach them. Help me be God's instrument, His light, His hope. Help me fight to move forward in this endeavor! I want to be used.

Character of a Man

Precious Gems

I have a friend. I haven't known this person a long period of time. Less than two years, I'd say. But lately, I have been getting to know them better. This friend challenges me. This friend supports me. This friend doesn't always politely agree with me, but broadens my thinking. This friend encourages me in my endeavors. This friend is beyond unique. This friend is Godly. And therefore I strive to know this person better and better!

The pastor at my church was talking this week about evaluating the friends in our lives. I have been doing a lot of that over the past few years, and even more so over the past few months. You see, life is short! And the value and blessing of friendship is priceless. But we have to be honest with ourselves and use discernment concerning those whom we choose to "run" with. Our friends are often times a reflection of ourselves. And I am learning to not only choose my friends more wisely than I ever have in my life, and I am also learning how to release ones that are harmful to my soul. Tough lesson to learn and even tougher to put into action, but wise nonetheless.

One of the number one requirements I have for those I choose to draw closest to these days is DEPTH! That's a popular term around my house. We use it a lot. It says a lot about a person. I want to surround myself with people of great depth. There is a massive crowd of people who are "as shallow as spit". Everything in their world is surface and hollow and depthless. They do not challenge those around them. They are close-minded to change and improvement. They live on celebrity gossip and the latest fashions. I want the crowd that I "run with" to be deep. People who care about others. People who strive to know God more closely each and every day. People who spread joy and hope to a lost world. People are always seeking to grow and change and improve. People who love...their God, each other, lost souls, and reach out to them all.

Take a look at your crowd. Who is in it? Let me challenge you to draw joyful, positive, alive, challenging, spiritual people of great depth closest to you. It will change your life. You will then be better equipped to touch more and more lives in a more positive and meaningful way. If your circle of friends refuels you, if they cause you to grow closer to God, if they propel you forward, you can then be of greater use to the rest of the world. Don't take these words to mean that you close the rest of the world out. NO!!! We are called to reach out to them, to everyone. But you need your closest friends to be DEEP and thus, probably few. Jesus had VERY VERY few He was truly close to. Check it out. He reached out to ALL, but only drew a couple very close.

Make some time to reflect on your friendships. Thank God for those who continuously bring joy, love, depth, and growth into your life. Always be looking for more of these people to know, to learn from, to engage. Friendship is a powerful and mighty asset in your Christian walk. I thank my God every day for the amazing friends He has brought into my life. I am a better Christian woman each day because of their depth and their Godly spirits. Thank God for the people like that in your life. If you don't have any, pray for them, seek them out, beg God to open your eyes and your heart to those with whom He wants you to connect. Like I am doing with the friend I mentioned at the beginning... be proactive, be purposeful, have intent to get to know those people better, to learn from them, and to draw them near. When I run across an extremely rare and precious gem like the friend I mentioned, I see it for the miraculous blessing that it is, and embrace it. I pray you will too.

The Source of All Peace

Everyday is a new and amazing set of challenges and blessings. My life is not perfect...FAR from it. It is not struggle-free, not even close! It is not some euphoric wonderland. But, it is also not a gray and gloomy place. It has its ups and its downs. And from them, I learn and grow and change DAILY. And I love that! I always want to be growing...the other choice is stagnation... have you've ever seen stagnant water...HELLO???...It is GROSS! I don't want that for my life...no way!

The two things I was struggling with, that I wrote about in my previous post have been dealt with. Praise God! Neither situation was "easy" or pleasant, to be quite honest. However, I am better off for having faced those challenges head-on. I learned more about myself than I imagined that I would. I have also learned a lot about allowing God, through the Holy Spirit, to guide me, my words, and my actions. Don't get me wrong, I did not handle either situation perfectly. I was open to His Spirit and I spoke from my heart with love and I know that's what He required of me.

So yet again, I find myself rejoicing--rejoicing in my trials. Rejoicing because I followed God's nudges and that gives me more peace than I ever imagined. I want to make something clear so that I don't misrepresent reality: Neither situation/conversation ended up with a fairy tale ending. In fact one of them was quite a fiasco at the time. God does not promise us that there will not be trials, unpleasant discussions, hardened hearts, and the like. We are living in a fallen world. So even when we do the right things, the Godly things, the difficult things, it may not be all sunshine and rainbows at the time. But if we allow ourselves to follow His call, move forward when He nudges, and obey Him, GOOD will follow. Peace will prevail in our lives. It is happening for me. I let Him carry me through the thorns and briars, and I made it through another challenge--stronger, wiser, and more joyful! I don't know how either situation will end up, I just know that I did what I know God wanted and what was right and biblical. I can trust that "God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love Him" (Romans 8:28).

Peace follows doing God's will and and it follows speaking the truth in love. PEACE follows, it does! I struggled and stumbled through it, but God held me close through all of it. I know He will cause everything to work together for my good and the good of those involved who love Him too! Knowing that takes off ALL the pressure. God's love is strong and He can carry us through the muck and mire.

No matter what you're dealing with, no matter how big or small, God can and will carry you through it, He can and will cause the Holy Spirit to work inside of you to do and say the things that you must in order to get through it. Don't try it by yourself, it will end up wrecked! Walk with Him, follow His calling, His Word, and His gentle nudges. Peace and joy will prevail!

Mirror Mirror on the Wall

Mirror, mirror on the wall, don't like what I see it all!

There are a couple of situations in my life that are causing me a great deal of anxiety. Why? They shouldn't be. They can only do that if I allow them to. And here's what's funny---if I knew someone else as conflicted and anxious about these things, I'd be incredibly frustrated that they were allowing such nonsense in their lives. I'd make sure to tell them that too! So, why haven't I handled my two circumstances in the same way I would want someone else to that I care about? Hmmm, I could go with an old, yet well-used excuse, "We'll, this is DIFFERENT!" WRONG...it's not different!

It's hard to like what you see in the mirror when you know the person looking back at you has allowed Satan steal their joy. And that is SO the case with ME right now. You see, these situations currently infesting my life with inner conflict, only exist in my world because I am allowing them to be there. In these instances, I didn't even have to DO anything to allow them access into my life. All I had to do was: NOTHING. By doing NOTHING, by sticking my head in the sand REPEATEDLY, by using the technique of avoidance, I have allowed my joy to be ripped away from me! Can I blame others? Sure...I could. But it would be a whopper of a lie. I have NO ONE but myself to blame.

Always talking about "stepping up, taking action, NOT sitting back and watching", and the list goes on and on and on---that's ME! Well, in these two ugly situations, I didn't listen to my own incredibly wise insight. Arggggh! I hate it when I do that. (I bet you hate it when you do that too.) BUT--(Behold, the Underlying Truth) the good news is...I have been convicted. The Holy Spirit never lets me go too long before He puts that mirror in front of my face, and what is reflected back is ghastly. Thank you God for the gift of the Holy Spirit and that you've helped me to soften my heart enough to humbly look into that mirror and be willing to change the person looking back at me.

I have remained silent long enough. I have stood back and allowed my joy to be snatched from me while I watched. I have stuck my head in the sand for the last time. I have veiled my "inaction" under the guise of "trying to be NICE" and "not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings", and on and on. I have denied what I know to be true and right under those false pretenses. WHOA! That's scary. How easily the enemy convinced me that being quiet, gentle, and "nice" might be better than dealing with REALITY through truth and love. So what did I do??? I did NOTHING. I watched two situations deteriorate in front of my very eyes. I listened to the the enemy, and in an effort to keep from ruffling feathers, in an effort to be "nice", in an effort to keep from hurting anyone's feelings etc...I used my legendary avoidance technique. "If I ignore this ugly situation, it will just magically go away." HOW SILLY! HOW NAIVE! HOW WRONG!

I am committed to dealing with these two uncomfortable, unpleasant, now unavoidable situations in my life. I am going to do it at the very first opportunity that I can. I am unexpectedly at peace about it too. I am excited because I know I am getting my JOY back. I am happy because I will be a stronger Christian woman for addressing these issues. I am happy because yet again, the Holy Spirit has tackled me---and I LOVE THAT! I count it such a blessing to see my life and my heart open to God and the Holy Spirit. It may not always be pleasant at first, but I can PROMISE you that every single time in my life that I have bowed in submission to His will, my life has FLOURISHED almost instantaneously! I can hardly sit still in my anticipation of what is to come. I trust my Lord to take care of me and bless me when I follow His direction. I am looking forward to my JOY being returned to me. In fact, I believe it's here already! (Sigh---of contentment and relief.)

So, I challenge you to look into your mirror too...not the one in your bathroom, but your spiritual mirror. Really look deeply at what you see. Is it beautiful? Or is it someone avoiding doing something they know they must? Someone refusing to forgive? Someone bound by things of this earth? Someone focused on money or money issues? Someone needing to step up and take action? Someone needing to let go of hurt and anger and release them to God? Whatever it is that you see...especially if you don't like it, PLEASE let me encourage you to DEAL with it is as soon as you possibly can. You may need to take some time to pray, to seek wise counsel, to study His Word...but do it. Do not put off the things that make your reflection ghastly like mine was. Tackle them before they suck you under! Tackle them before too much damage is done. Do it, go forward arm-in-arm with God. He will go with you and bless your socks off for having done what you know He calls you to do. Stop listening to the lies of the enemy, the fear in your heart, or your own selfish delusions. I encourage you to soften your heart, be uncomfortably honest with yourself, and look DEEPLY into that mirror. Act on what you see. He will be your guide if you let Him. Avoidance under any circumstance is cowardly. Remove it from your arsenal of coping techniques! Allow God to reveal to you the things that you are avoiding and let Him show you the path back to your JOY. It's much easier to look in to the mirror if you are not avoiding the things you most desperately need to address in your life--AND the reflection is much more beautiful. Trust me, get that weight of your shoulders, and you will find immediate relief. God may surprise you with the blessings He can then bestow upon you.

Mirror, mirror on the wall, in obedience I stand tall!